What is self regulation, anyway?
In the Psychological Review journal all the back to 1982, the behavior theorist Bandura proposed that people administered rewards and punishments to themselves in an attempt to control their behavior.
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Resurrecting the REAL You!
Remember the Velveteen Rabbit book?
An ignored stuffed rabbit needed to be loved. The little boy who owned him but never played with him. One day, an awful thing happened. The boy was subjected to a contagious fever, and he became gravely ill.. The bunny was allowed into the boy’s bedroom to comfort him.. Finally bunny was good enough.
Sometimes bunny got hurt when the boy held him too tightly. And he began to look ratty and worn. But pain was better than being ignored. Love had its price.
The boy recovered. Bunny felt so wonderful. He finally belonged. He was grateful to be worthy of love. But tragedy awaited. The doctor ordered everything in the boy’s contagious room to be destroyed.
And then a miracle happened. Love conquered all. Bunny became real! A miracle of BECOMING.
What is your miracle going to be?
How can you become REAL again in your own thinner body and hopeful heart?
Tips to discover what makes you real:
Get a cool journal and start writing your first memories
Write 5 feeling words to describe you as a kid. Then teen, Then adult.
Write what happened that caused you pain.
Write what happened that caused you joy?
Write what the word, “Free” means to you
BREATHE in love for yourself.
Remember the Velveteen Rabbit book?
An ignored stuffed rabbit needed to be loved. The little boy who owned him but never played with him. One day, an awful thing happened. The boy was subjected to a contagious fever, and he became gravely ill.. The bunny was allowed into the boy’s bedroom to comfort him.. Finally bunny was good enough. Read More→
BARIARTIC BEST SELF The New Thin Me Mission
OK, so you have had bariatric surgery and you want to lose weight. GREAT!
Good for you. I admire your courage in going through with your procedure.
BRAVO!
Now what do you want to accomplish?
Do you want to establish a new life purpose now that your weight does no inhibit you?
What are you willing to hold yourself accountable for?
Do you need some help developing your new thin life mission?
Bariatric surgery coaching coming up.
Steps to establish your personal BARIARTIC BEST SELF the new thin me mission:
Be patient with yourself as you formulate your life’s purpose statement. It took me a year to get it straight.
Brainstorm from where do you get your most juice? Your energy? Your feeling good?
What are your values? For example, my biggest value are freedom, excellence, creativity, achievement, and love.
How do you live your life? What really matters to you?
Let yourself go. Hang loose. Have fun with this.
Use action words. Verbs. In my mission statement, I say, “I empower and evolve people to their best selves.”
Ask others how you are unique. You will love this! It is so much fun. Get ready for surprises, too. Remember that when you lose weight, people will see you as different. Will you act differently? Decide who you are, how you express yourself , and what you will choose to accomplish everyday
Remember, you are not weight and pounds.
You are you. Wonderful, remarkable you
You are so very special.
OK, so you have had bariatric surgery and you want to lose weight. GREAT! Good for you. I admire your courage in going through with your procedure. BRAVO!
Now what do you want to accomplish?
Do you want to establish a new life purpose now that your weight does no inhibit you?
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Identity. Introducing You to You!
Bariatric surgery isn’t for sissies.
Great for your body and health that you are losing weight!
But are you gaining YOU?
Maybe you are like Peggy. She had surgery, lost weight, and got depressed. As the pounds were erased, she thought she’d be happy. She mournfully related, “I lost my fat, but I lost myself, too!”
Who are you now?
What self knowledge do you need to re-invent awesome less weight you?
Lao Tzu said, “One who knows other is wise. You who knows oneself is enlightened.”
Want to get re-acquainted with yourself?
Be patient with yourself. Life and weigh loss evolve.
Keep a journal of how you feel. What needs to change?
Write down your dreams.
Make a plan to achieve them. One at a time.
Give yourself specific little doable goals. Like walking 5′ or calling a friend.
Go gently. Rome wasn’t conquered in a day. You WILL get there.
I believe in you. Please believe in you, too. I have watched my clients win at weight.
You can, too!
Watch for specific tips to topple the scales in your life coming up soon!
Bariatric surgery isn’t for sissies. Great for your body and health that you are losing weight! But are you gaining YOU?
Maybe you are like Peggy. She had surgery, lost weight, and got depressed. As the pounds were erased, she thought she’d be happy. She mournfully related, “I lost my fat, but I lost myself, too!”
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BE the BEST SELF That You Deserve
Why does it have to be so hard…Weight loss winning?
Whether you have had bariatric surgery or might someday, weight may still be your issue.
Or you think it is.
But if it weren’t?
Huh? I can hear you telling me, “But is HAS been my bug-a-boo forever?
What if I disagreed…Who, me?
What if I took you on and asked you, “Truly, is it your weight…Or is it your FOCUS?”
Or is it the weight of your life?
This blog is about YOU.
All of you.
Your heart, mind, soul…your essence. Every morsel of who you really are.
What does that have to do with pounds or #’S?
I am going to give you a challenge.
Please close your eyes and sense your world. Focus on wonderful YOU inside.
Can you feel the loveliness that you are? Your goodness, strengths, and personal power.
If you can’t, it is all waiting for you.
Your very BEST SELF.
Start today!
Look for the good.
Be grateful
Savor life, not food.
And if you’re stuck, give me a buzz or flash me an email.
You deserve your BEST SELF now
Why does it have to be so hard…Weight loss winning?
Whether you have had bariatric surgery or might someday, weight may still be your issue.
Or you think it is.
But if it weren’t?
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Weight loss isn’t just about pounds and weight. It’s about lovely you, inside and out. Your heart, spirit and soul. Every part of you needs and deserves to become healthy and happy.
Positivity is a sure-fire way for you to begin to feel good in your skin. Want to know how positive you are? Take the Positivity Ratio Quiz at PositivityRatio.com. I love short, fun quizzes.
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